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I once knew a man who was always in a relationship. He was what is called a serious monogamist and as soon as one relationship finished he was into the next. I asked him why and he said he hated being on his own and so he made sure it never happened. This meant that he always looked before he leaped and left a trail of unhappy women behind him.

My friend hung on in with incompatible women and sometimes took flak he didn’t deserve because of his fear of loneliness.

This chap (and there are many men and women like this) was the dating industries best friend until he read a self help book and decided that he was going to try and make a go of being himself for three months without looking for a new date.

Three months turned into six and with each passing day his fear of being alone left him and he felt more confident. Eventually he went back onto the internet dating site and met a lovely lady for the right reasons and not the wrong ones. They are now married and aged 50 plus as happy as they have ever been in their life.

The moral of the story? Sometimes taking one step back is the best way of taking two steps forward when looking for a new and permanent relationship.

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