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Even the cleverest people keep on doing the same things again and again that costs them their relationship.

One of my mail friends is always attracted to busty blondes with nothing much going on between their ears. My best female friend specialises in insecure, needy and clingy men for some reason. Heaven only knows why this is the case but people do keep repeating the same mistake.

Some psychiatrists believe that people seek out their mother or father in new relationships and others believe that they look for their comfort zone by entering relationships where if problems occur they can control the situation.

Whatever the answer, just keeping on banging your head against a brick wall is a stupid thing to do.  It’s not easy changing such deep seated behaviour but the vital thing is to realise that you are stuck in a pattern and do something about it. The movie ‘Groundhog Day’ comes to mind when I think about this but even in the hardest of situations such as Bill Murray found, there is a way out if you try.

A happy long term relationship for you is probably dependent on breaking the cycle you are in choose how hard it gets to do. Online dating gives you a chance to be massively choosy about whom you meet and so good luck in ditching the past and finding a realistic future.

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